beFriendmystress

Life & Work Balance

Regain passion in your chosen career after you have suffered burnout because of overwhelming stress, fatigue, and trauma.

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beFriendmystress

I believe that stress is my best friend and my constant companion in my life, stress came into my life, from the moment I was conceived to the moment I will die. There is no such thing as a "stress free" moment in my life. My body, my mind, my spirit are in constant need of nourishment or information or peace of mind.

More and more we hear about how we don't have time for things anymore, deadlines are looming and we are busy juggling life, kids, work, and friends.

And over the years as a life coach and as a caregiver, I have come to the realization, that stress is pure energy, same like faith, hope, anger and love. It is not positive nor is it negative,. It is how we react to our stress which creates a positive or a negative experience and overtime these results have influenced our belief systems on how we see stress in our lives.
Stress is a physical sensation, some describe it as a rushing train, others as a tingling, and others as something else that creates a sensation in our bodies, even when people are panicking or freezing up, there is this energy, the "ing" of each word describes motion, an energy source.

We cannot control energy, we cannot contain it indefinitely, we cannot manage it, however, instead we can use energy to do things with it, and we can change things, we can change our lives because of energy, because of stress.
Therefor we can change things in our lives when you use stress wisely, when it shows up.
Why is it that most people see or experience stress as being negative?
I believe that this process starts as a young child, as our parents or adults around us as children could not handle the added stress of a screaming or an acting out child on top of their daily stresses.
This created the beginning on how we as young people and later in life as adults, think, behave and react to stress in our lives; the need of stress management, the need to contain stress, the need to suppress it, and the need to control it, is so ingrained in our psyche that all our actions are geared and focused on how to stop or prevent our stress.
So, in order to learn about how to befriend your stress, you need to be able to change your mind set on stress in your life, and you need to understand what stress is, and what is it not!

I strongly believe in the ripple effect, when I help a professional that is supporting others, I help many more.

As a Stress Management Consultant, I coach professionals that struggle with high stress, burnout, secondary trauma, PTSD transference, compassion fatigue.
As a consultant, I support business leaders with insight and solutions to create a proactive and supportive business culture, by introducing interactive communications methods, increase employee engagement, training of management and personnel, to create a cohesive work environment.

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"When we want to be an effective caregiver for others, then we must be an effective caretaker of ourselves"
(John Cazander 2018)

In August 2018, John was asked to join an international coaching organization, John McKee and Associates.


Services


John McKee and Associates

In today’s coaching environment, it’s not enough to be “ just” a good coach. You need someone who can help you build a solid coaching practice. We can help…. Over the last 10 years, the coaching sector has grown significantly. Industry forecasts indicate that this growth will not slow down. And, with this growth, competition has become a challenge in many markets. That’s why our founder, John M McKee, has created a group of ‘experts’ who can help you gain new clients, build your income, and manage your practice. These are coaches who are working every day with clients themselves. They’ve dealt with business issues and are here to help you overcome roadblocks in your own practice. Our JMA Experts know how to help you build your own coaching business, improve your income, and help your clients at the same time. These individuals can also help you improve your skills and coaching performance.

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Consulting

As a Stress Management Consultant, I consult business leaders on how stress is affecting their personnel, their teams and their execution of best practices. An organization's existing culture can bring an unique form of stress both for management and workforce. Through interactive workshops management and personnel find solutions to create a harmonious work environment.

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World Wide Coaching Association

The Worldwide Association of Business Coaches (WABC) is the first global professional association to exclusively represent the business coaching industry. Since its inception in 1997, WABC has dedicated itself to raising the profile of business coaching

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Coaching

As a Life Coach I am specialized in compassion fatigue and burnout, I coach professionals on creating effective self-care strategies which will enhance their personal and professional development. My ideal clients are business leaders, life coaches, counselors, mentors, trainers, facilitators, front-line personnel, mental health workers, Doctors, Nurses, and other professionals.

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Facilitating

I facilitate the following workshops: Resilience in the workplace, the interdependence of self-care, teamwork and healthy workplace`` ` This interactive workshop teaches participants how all 3 components are connected, if one falters, they all falter, if one succeeds, the all succeed. Caregiver Wellness Series, a 3-day program for professional and peer caregivers, the participants will learn the differences between stress, burnout, compassion fatigue and PTSD transference symptoms. Stress Factors at Work: a 1-day workshop, where participants will acquire insight on how they react to stress, at home, within relationships and in the workplace. Grieving in the workplace: This 6 week program is especially designed for front-line personnel that have to deal with death on a regular basis, such as Palliative Care or End of Life Care. With the help of the "Wellness Chart" and an interactive program, participants will have a deeper understanding of their own mental well-being, where they are in the burnout process, and how to change course, before they end up being burned out. As a consultant, I am able to design and change programs, seminars or workshops to a business or organization's needs.

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Mentoring

Once an organization or a business has offered some of my programs to management or the workforce, then I am available for mentoring individuals that are in a supporting or mentoring other personnel

Speaking Engagements

I am open to speaking engagement opportunities, just email me with what your organization's objectives

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Articles


The mental and emotional costs to ourselves when we are trying to avoid stress and burnout at all cost!

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Procrastination and second guessing one's decision will feed the guilt of self-destruction

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How to set yourself free from the fear of stress and burnout

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My personal journey through a total burnout process, till I hit rock bottom and almost lost my life, when I felt burned out, because of the stress, burnout, compassion fatigue and PTSD transference. Read the Wellness chart carefully and see where you are at in the burnout process, knowledge is power, and seek counselling immediately when you are trying to stay trying to maintain professionalism when it start to feel like a strain

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How to differentiate between stress, burnout, compassion fatigue, PTSD transference and burned out stage, and acknowledge how incredibly linked they are

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The essence of coaching is about walking with your client's journey, to guide, to support, to encourage and to help the person gain confidence in themselves.

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The power of CHOICES on how to live our lives

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Resilience is not about trying to avoid our stress, instead it is about embracing our stress and use the momentum to our best advantage, to change our direction to a hopeful future.

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The confusion of what is what, when it comes to stress to being burned out

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Differentiate between the definition and possible symptoms of stress, burnout, PTSD, compassion fatigue and job fatigue

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Testimonials


 John Cazander is a Stress Management Consultant, who offers personal- and work-skills training programs on stress, burnout and fatigue. My company hired John to present a workshop in Stress@Work, in small group sessions, to select employees in December of 2008. The course was effective and well received. Most employees who attended the course provided management with feedback afterwards – all of which was positive. John has also done personal coaching for at least one of our employees on a personal basis – to the benefit of both the employee and our workplace."

Lorne ChurchillDiscovery Software

F.A.Q


A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances..
Stress is felt in a physical way, it might feel like a tingling, a tightening, a choking, a weighing, a rushing, it is a sensation that is often felt very intense.
A physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress.

A sequential process that takes a person through a burnout till they hit rock bottom
Burnout is experienced in an emotional way, coupled with the physical stress these symptoms can overlap and become one. And stress is experienced as a physical sensation
Indifference to charitable appeals on behalf of those who are suffering, experienced as a result of the frequency or number of such appeals.
Compassion fatigue is an accumulation of stress, burnout, sometimes grief and a person has an emotional investment due to caring for others.
Is a mental health condition that's triggered by a terrifying event, either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.
Professionals that are in a care-giving role to others, transference of having to work with or hear about trauma and PTSD from others on a constant basis may happen overtime and they lose the ability to maintain healthy boundaries, in addition this might trigger suppressed trauma or PTSD that they themselves had in the past, or it might trigger and discovery of an unknown traumatic event in their live.
Burnout is the sequential process of reaching rock bottom, also known as being burned out.
A person is burned out when in a state of physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress, they might feel despair, feeling lost, hopelessness, thoughts of escape, such as suicide ideation or suicidal attempts are more frequently.
Stress management refers to the wide spectrum of techniques and psychotherapies aimed at controlling a person’s levels of stress, especially chronic stress, usually for the purpose of improving everyday functioning.
Having to feel pressured into trying to stay in control, by trying to bring one’s emotions and thoughts under control. Trying to stay focused on the tasks at hand, while experiencing negativity, negative self-talk, the results are a narrow point of view, tunnel vision, and the constricts one’s mind.
Stress Management key words are:
Pressure, Control, Trying, Negativity, Narrow, Tunnel Vision and Constrictive.
Self-care strategy is a voluntary activity which helps maintain a person’s physical, mental or emotional well-being. It can help a person to feel healthy, relaxed and ready to take on their work and responsibilities.
A Self-Care Strategy enables a person to choose what works for them, most people know what makes them happy. As the actions are voluntary in nature, it enables a person to have an open mind, they are able to see the bigger picture, are more likely to ask for help when they feel stuck, and in turn will support others. It will empower management and personnel to use stress effectively to increase productivity, and to create a friendly working environment, that will result in increased sales numbers and higher profits.
Self-Care Strategy key words are:
Enable, Choice, Happy, Voluntary, Open, Bigger Picture, Ask Help, Support Others.
A coach works with the well-being of a client and in the present, working to enhance the transformation of the client.

A counselor, works with the mental state of the client, and often has to work with the client's past to find possible causes for problems that stops a client from moving forward.
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